Get More Interested in Other People

Have you ever been guilty of pre-judging someone before getting to know them?

Do you take the time to meet new people, regardless of their background, and really take an interest in their life?

I have recently started doing more of this and it has been fascinating. You can really learn a lot about people and the world when you stop focusing on telling your story, and start focusing on learning more about others. I also happen to believe this is an amazing sales tactic because you establish relationships that can lead to friendships when you lead by showing interest in other people.

Do you do this? Has this blog post inspired you to get out and learn more about people? Let me know what you think in the comments below…

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22 Responses to Get More Interested in Other People

  1. Brad Gosse July 29, 2010 at 7:52 am #

    Enough about me how are YOU doing?

    We all make snap judgements when we meet new people. Those first impressions help us make core decisions based on trust.

    I love to meet new people and hear their stories. Almost everyone has something cool to share when you meet them. I meet the best people at blackjack tables 🙂
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    • Justin Popovic July 29, 2010 at 11:14 am #

      I agree and I have also met some REALLY interesting people at the tables in Vegas. In general though, you can really enhance your day to day experience when you take interest in others no matter what.

  2. Leigh Sherman July 29, 2010 at 9:40 am #

    Right on Justin. It’s a clever strategy that builds strongly relationships you can leverage from.

    Another stella post my friend.

    Leigh.
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    • Justin Popovic July 29, 2010 at 11:15 am #

      Thanks Leigh. I know you do a great job of this as well so I was glad to see you stop by and chime in on the conversation!

  3. Jay Kraft July 29, 2010 at 2:47 pm #

    Great insight! I’ve had the tendancy in the past to write people off Ari Gold style and label them based on perseption or appearance. But it really only hinders you from possibly gaining a very worthwhile acquaintance or firend over a period of time. Its important to cease an opportunity when it presents itself and take advantage of what could be..
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    • Justin Popovic July 29, 2010 at 2:53 pm #

      Good point Jay. There will always be exceptions to the rule but for the most part, I have been pleasantly suprised at all the great conversations I’ve had so far on my new “networking” attitude.

  4. Kubi July 29, 2010 at 4:08 pm #

    I totally agree Justin you never know with whom you are talking and specially who the person knows.

    Great stuff.

    Bye for now,

    Kubi

  5. Ben July 29, 2010 at 5:23 pm #

    Everyone carries with them a nugget of wisdom. If you don’t take interest them you’ll miss them.

    Active listening makes a massive difference to your ability to take in the most information when you are taking interest in people

    Great video Justin
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    • Justin Popovic July 29, 2010 at 7:48 pm #

      Thanks Ben. I like that term “active listening”. You’ve nailed it that you are costing yourself a learning opportunity if brush someone off.

  6. Karen July 29, 2010 at 6:29 pm #

    This reminds me of Malcom Gladwell’s Blink – making snap judgements about people. Another good book is Tim Sander’s Love is the Killer App.

    You just never know about people. The most unassuming people can live really interesting lives and are involved in so many different things.

    You never know who the next person you meet will affect your life – it could be your next client, your next wife/husband, your next best friend, etc.
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    • Justin Popovic July 29, 2010 at 7:55 pm #

      Wow, awesome point Karen. If I start thinking about all of my interactions with new people from that perspective, I know it would be a lot more exciting and interesting than the days when I would be focused on productivity and ignoring the noise around me. Thanks for the insight.

  7. Steve Scott Site July 29, 2010 at 7:23 pm #

    First of all, I hope your coffee shop wasn’t Starbucks…that is MY OFFICIAL OFFICE and I don’t like intruders. Do you see the incredible secret I have kept in reference to Starbucks. Nobody else out there knows about it. Shhhhhh

    What you are saying is on point, though. It is important to actually talk to people and really listen. Too often people are forming their responses as people are talking, this is not having a conversation; it is having two interacting monologues.

    Thanks,

    Steve
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    • Justin Popovic July 29, 2010 at 7:50 pm #

      HA! It often is Starbucks but on that particular day it was a different spot.

      Funny you mention people talking at each other. That literally happened to be twice today. It is really annoying when you talk to people who are just waiting for their turn to talk. The lesson for me…don’t be that person!

      Thanks for commenting Steve.

  8. Cynthia Fox-Giddens July 30, 2010 at 11:20 am #

    Great post and very good points. I learn so much from other people and it’s good to strike up a conversation with others. You never know what new information you will discover.
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    • Justin Popovic July 30, 2010 at 11:23 am #

      Thanks Cynthia. It is very true and from what I know about you on Twitter, you are very good at taking interest in others and hearing their stories!

  9. John Sherry August 5, 2010 at 2:39 am #

    I with you on this one Justin. I have a kind of personal promise to talk to at least one new person everyday. That way I meet over 365 fresh perspectives on life every year plus actually make great contacts too. After all we have gotten used to the outlook and wisdom of those we know so inviting different input (even if its a mere 5 minute chat) can be highly inspiring and even life changing.
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    • Justin Popovic August 5, 2010 at 2:44 am #

      Wow. That is a great way to look at it… 365 new people every year. The amount of information and ideas you could accumulate would be amazing. Thanks for adding your perspective on this one. That is great food for thought.
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    • Christine August 7, 2010 at 9:52 pm #

      John, this is an amazing outlook – I love it!

  10. Stan Young August 14, 2010 at 9:28 pm #

    Justin as always inspiration plus! This is exactly in line with what we spoke about last week, rather than running looking for how we can monetise our blogs we should be looking to how we can engage with people to learn their stories. Whether that is online or off it doesnt matter. By getting to know people is a great way to expand our net work without the need to sell them something. As Brad mentioned when you interviewed him you may make a few quick bucks off an affiliate sale but this is not the way to build a long term valued customer.
    You provide a great example of how this should be done by first developing a rapport providing value at no cost, understanding the persons wants and needs and then offering a solution.
    As an Entrepreneur you still have bills to pay so I guess you need create a balance. Excellent post!
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    • Justin Popovic August 14, 2010 at 10:00 pm #

      THanks for the feedback Stan. Since doing this post a few weeks ago, I have been interviewing people for various blogs and just taking much more interest in people in general…and the number of new friends I have made has been amazing. People with great stories, great connections, you name it. This has been a tremendous personal learning experience.

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