Expanding Your Comfort Zone in Social Settings

Communication and relationship building are huge components of a successful foundation… both in business and in life. I know many people struggle with “coming out of their shell” when they engage socially. I have personally seen people go from being confident and outgoing in a 1 on 1 setting to shy, timid and nervous in a more public or social setting.

I believe that, with some effort and focus, you can improve your social networking skills and become very outgoing. You just have to set your mind to it and understand consciously what benefits you may receive if you do improve your social confidence.

In this video I share my 3 tips for expanding that social comfort zone.

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12 Responses to Expanding Your Comfort Zone in Social Settings

  1. John April 30, 2010 at 1:12 pm #

    Great video on a touchy subject that many people shy away from.

    • Justin Popovic April 30, 2010 at 1:15 pm #

      Thanks John.

      Yeah, even though I work on this stuff personally quite often, I find there is always SO much room for growth. I thought most people could benefit from this message. Thanks for stopping by.

  2. Martin Hurford April 30, 2010 at 1:37 pm #

    Hi Justin,

    This post hits home really hard. I have struggled for years to be more outgoing and as you say it’s much more difficult in social situations when you don’t know anyone. Although as you mentioned when you meet someone for the first time they don’t know what to expect so these situations really are opportunities to expand your comfort zone. Sometimes we are so caught up in our own fears that we fail to look at the flip side of the situation and miss those opportunities.

    Great tips, I look forward to implementing them.

    • Justin Popovic April 30, 2010 at 1:46 pm #

      Thanks for your insight Martin.

      You are bang on regarding getting caught up in our own fears. I am as guilty as anyone else. It is a difficult thing to overcome but it is possible with enough practice. I am glad that you will be implementing some of these techniques. I wanted to implement a long time ago but only really developed the courage in the past few years. All part of the personal development journey:)

  3. Leigh Sherman April 30, 2010 at 6:15 pm #

    it’s ok Jusitn, I am a donut addict?

    Great video champ, as always.

    • Justin Popovic May 3, 2010 at 9:26 am #

      Thanks Leigh. Donuts are pretty good too but I would still choose pizza in a battle 🙂
      Glad you liked the video.

  4. Karen April 30, 2010 at 7:04 pm #

    Hi Justin,

    I have Keith’s “Never Eat Alone” book and quite liked it. I think you gave some great tips as well to become a better communicator and networker. It’s all about building relationships.

    The wider your relationship net is the more opportunities that will come your way. Not only business opportunities but life ones, as well.

    Thanks for sharing. Btw, I really enjoyed the 10 personal development videos as well. Great job collecting those.

    Karen
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    • Justin Popovic May 3, 2010 at 9:23 am #

      Hey Karen,
      It really is all about building relationships. This message has really hit home with me recently and I am working very hard to build good relationships in both business and personal life. I think its easy forget the value of a single relationship. It is not about quantity…just quality.
      Glad you liked the 10 Presentations post as well!

  5. Stan Young May 1, 2010 at 1:05 am #

    Hi Justin

    Wow you surprise me by saying that your not that out going in social situations, you come across as being super confident and quite out there. So I find it interesting how sometimes we have impressions about people that we meet that are sometimes not accurate. I like your simple advice on how to generate an outgoing vibe and l look forward to giving it ago. Hey all they can do is laugh at me!
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    • Justin Popovic May 3, 2010 at 9:25 am #

      Hey Stan,
      I am far more outgoing than I used to be. And the type of social situation can also determine level of comfort in my experience. The main reason I created this post was to shed light on the fact that we can actually work on the “skill” of being social. A lot of it comes down to personal confidence and self esteem which is at the root of so many of our problems as people.
      Good luck with your implementation of the idea. I like your easy going approach. You will do well with it.

  6. Shelly Sargent May 7, 2010 at 11:13 am #

    Hey Justin – I’m back in the land of “audio drivers” and just in time too – I was really missing your posts while my sound was “on vacation”!

    Loved this post because it spoke directly to one of my greatest fears (and hence greatest weaknesses) and that is interacting socially in larger groups. I am fine one-on-one (do interviews as a part of my job), and manage okay with public speaking, but am much less comfortable in group situations. So now U have a place to start: I’ll energetically share that I am a total, certifiable caffiene addict , and will try asking those interesting, quirky little questions (which – ironically – are something I usually do as a matter of course during an interview).

    I’m thinking a bit of advanced planning could be good – and that paying attention to things in the news could be helpful. For example, at the moment you could ask people what their choice as the National Bird of Canada would be… or if they have Bieber Fever, lol!

    • Justin Popovic May 7, 2010 at 11:25 am #

      Hey Shelly,
      Thanks for sharing that. Wow, that is interesting that you are okay with speaking in front of an audience but have a problem with groups setting. The thing is, we both know you are not alone and there are MANY people who struggle with the same thing. I also know that you will win the majority of most groups over when you admit your caffeine addiction… they will relate to you instantly!!

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