I am a firm believer that each and every one of us has a bigger, bolder more enhanced version of ourselves trapped inside waiting to be unleashed!
In this post, I’d like to offer some ideas, tips and advice that will help you break through to a new version of you…
Section 1 – Use Challenges to Break Through Your Comfort Zone
Athletes do it – so do top professionals in business. Using challenges to clear the fog of monotony will also help you rid your anxiety and fear of failure and push you past barriers keeping you from true success.
Your comfort zone acts as a boundary that you can’t pass because you’re too nervous and afraid to breach the unknown. Since it’s a false and self-imposed boundary, it’s not really true.
Most people have built self-imposed boundaries to keep themselves safe and to avoid failure. Unless you’re willing to break out and explore outside of that comfort zone, you may be stuck in a world of the mundane – never realizing your true potential.
One challenge to try when you’re ready to leave your comfort zone is to gather information about those situations you’re anxious or fearful about. The scenarios we invent in our minds aren’t usually real and information in the form of education can empower you to go beyond what you’re comfortable with.
Hold yourself accountable for breaking through your comfort zone. Enlist the people in your life to help you keep on track and to push you just as you’re pushing yourself. It’s doubtful you’ll be tempted to quit when others are watching your progress.
A plan of action is acutely necessary and acts as a roadmap to lead you through the quagmire and finally break through your comfort zone. Create checkpoints just as you would if you were on a trip across the country.
These checkpoints should be mini-goals that you can reach and know you’re a few steps closer to breaking out of the comfort one and reaching your ultimate goal. These mini-goals are challenges that will keep you enthused and enable you to stay on track to the end result.
Challenges will begin to desensitize you to the anxiety you might otherwise feel about moving on to the next step – and the next. Eventually, you’ll want to change the small challenges you began with to super challenges where you have to be more aggressive to push ahead to the next goal.
Sometimes you may fail the challenges, but just as Rome wasn’t built in a day, neither will you break out of your comfort zone easily. Learn from the negative experiences and that knowledge alone will take you far on the next challenge.
Always expand your comfort zone to the next level. For example, if you’re the author of several novellas, but you really want to write that page turning historical novel, figure out what you have to do first.
Should you make an outline, do some research, contact publishers and read other novels in that genre? Go for it. Begin the journey and keep pushing the boundaries that keep you prisoner and cause self-doubt. Until you take action and begin to challenge yourself – you’ll never get the results.
Check out this additional audio segment about taking more chances (this will help you break your comfort zone)
Section 2 – Dare Yourself to Overcome Fear of Success
Why does the thought of success strike fear in so many people with so much potential? The answer could be because there’s change involved. Simply put, most of us are afraid of any changes that are going to shake us out of the cages which have become our comfort zone.
If you’re going to be successful, you’re going to have to overcome the fear and take action. You can begin the journey by daring yourself, setting aside your fears and taking action to meet your goals for the future.
Fear is normal – fear of snakes, heights, drowning, rejection – and the changes that come with success. Fear is a normal part of life, but unless you address those fears, they will follow you around, make you miserable and squash any dreams of success you may have.
You may feel you’re not good enough for success or perhaps you’re afraid you’ll fail and people will discover you’re a fraud. It may be time to dare yourself to success – because you have the power and the strength within you to take the necessary actions to meet your goals and make your dreams come true.
It’s okay to feel that fear in your mind and heart. The danger is letting that fear paralyze you into taking no action at all. Acknowledge that you are fearful and know that it’s normal.
Then, it’s time to face those fears and figure out what you have to do to make success happen. Begin small and with each step, dare yourself to think bigger and better. Eventually, you will have dared yourself to success.
Maya Angelou once said, “I believe the most important single thing, beyond discipline and creativity is daring to dare.” When you dare to take control of your life and take action to make those dreams come true, the fear will gradually begin to wane and then you’ll forget about it altogether.
Take a moment to think about what you would do – which actions you would take – if you weren’t afraid. Write those actions down and one by one dare yourself to make them happen.
Tap in on the brave side of your personality and use the power you have to add more power and overcome the obstacles one by one until you make success happen. Ask for guidance if needed.
Take courses, read books or network with successful people – anything to give you the knowledge and confidence you’ll need to overcome the fears. When you make a conscious decision to dare yourself and take the actions needed to reach success, you’re on your way to dashing all your fears that you’re not good enough, not creative or beautiful enough and other negative thoughts that hold you back.
Think of all the challenges that bring fear into your heart and mind and then dare yourself to overcome them. Begin small and your fears of success will diminish as you go along.
Check out this additional audio segment about improving mental toughness (this will help you overcome fear of success)
Section 3 – Pushing Past Your Limitations to Achieve Success
Any limitation you place on yourself can keep you from the success you deserve. Fear, self-doubt, physical ability or a defeatist mentality can seem like crossing the ocean in a canoe when you give in to your so-called limitations.
Most people will never push past those mental obstacles to realize their dreams and goals, but you can learn how to overcome anything in your way – including limitations. Don’t try – and you’ll leave dreams unrealized and your life unfulfilled.
Have you ever started a fitness program and begun going to the gym to lose weight and become more fit? At first, you push through the weights, aerobics and other obstacles. Then, you reached barriers seemingly unpassable – such as stuck at a certain weight or not being able to spend more time on the treadmill.
You may have floundered and then given up. Most people go back to their old habits when that happens. They’ve been knocked off track and had their hopes and dreams of losing weight and getting fit dashed. It’s discouraging.
That happens with goals and dreams of other types of success, too. You may think you’ve reached your limit and quit trying. One thing you can do if this happens is to find a mentor or knowledgeable person to push you further.
When someone is on your side and has your well-being at heart, he or she can help you get out of your comfort zone, meet and surpass those limitations you’ve set for yourself. These motivational sidekicks can tell you how they pushed past their limitations to success and that should encourage you to keep on trying.
Always go the extra mile. That may mean taking on more responsibility than you think you can handle. The challenges may be difficult, but when you overcome them, more confidence will be restored and you won’t be confined to what you know you can do, but be eager to go farther.
Use visionary techniques to reach the next goal. Your imagination can do wonders for your self-confidence. How would you act, dress, think and feel if you were to reach a long sought out goal? Learn how to utilize a vision board and make one for yourself.
Mantras are inspirational and designed to make you passionate about what you’re seeking to do or be. Inspirational messages you repeat to yourself, meditation designed to help you think clearly, books and music are all motivational techniques which can help to mentally push you past your limitations.
There are no shortcuts when it comes to overcoming your limitations and achieving success. You have to learn all you can, push yourself harder and one-by-one break down the barriers that have kept you from reaching your goals and realizing your dreams.
Pushing past limitations is a bit like beginning to ride a bicycle. At first, you may be wobbly and fall and scratch your knees and elbows – but in time, you hop on and ride without a thought of why you might not be able to.
Eventually, you may wonder why you ever were afraid of getting on that bike. It seemed so intimidating and formidable at first, but you practiced, learned the techniques and use that bike to take you places you may never have experienced otherwise. The same thing can happen when you become determined to push past your limitations and seek the success you’ve always dreamed of.
Check out this additional audio segment about teasing out your personal strengths (this will help you form a foundation to push past your current limits)
Section 4 – Revive Your Passion for Success by Building Your Confidence
You may remember the days when you were so excited about your plan for success that you could hardly wait to get up in the morning and meet the inevitable challenges along the way.
You were pumped and ready for action. As time goes on and you fall into a mundane life that’s comfortable for you, you may forget what it feels like to have that passion for realizing the success you’ve always dreamed of.
It’s never too late to revive the passion you once had and build back your confidence so that you’re ready to take on new challenges and get back on the path that you once had so much enthusiasm for.
That nagging sense of doubt that overcomes all of us from time to time may have zapped your commitment to what you’re doing as well as your energy and creativity. It may be time to stop and take a look at what you’ve been doing, why your passion has waned and what you can do to get it back.
You may only need some minor adjustments in your plan to get back the enthusiasm you once had – or it may be time to reassess your dreams and goals and take off in an entirely new direction.
Feeling trapped in a job or situation that no longer works for you erodes your passion until you may not know what you want anymore. Sometimes you just trudge along, hoping against hope that things will get better.
Eventually, it becomes a prison that’s difficult to escape from. Could you be bored with the job or situation you’re in? If you’re simply going through the motions to keep a job or relationship, it’s no wonder that you feel like something is missing from your life!
You’ve lost touch with what it is you really want – and you’re right to be questioning it. It could be time to take a time out to reconnect with your values and dreams and rejuvenate your passion for success.
During the time out (sometimes called sabbaticals), you can pursue other interests to see if there’s something out there you’re missing and that might point you in a new direction you could feel confidence in and enjoy.
Although there’s no exact pattern for finding a solution to restore passion for what you’ve chosen to do, there are ways to pursue a strategy that might work for you. For example, you could hire a life coach or other type of help to begin reassessing your life.
Sometimes it’s just a matter of taking steps to rebuild confidence in what you’re doing now. For example, you might take courses or attend seminars in your chosen field. Surround yourself with people who are successful in the path you’ve chosen as your life’s work.
Their determination and enthusiasm might rub off on you and give you a wake up call about what you’re meant to do rather than following a compelling whim that could take you in another direction.
Take some risks – whether it’s in the job or situation you’re currently in or with something else you want to try. Take small steps and with each step, you’ll build your confidence to the point that you’ll be ready to take the leap to true success.
Section 5 – Turning Failures into Success Stories
It’s so satisfying and so much fun to talk to others about successes you may have had and terrifying to think that others know about your failures. It stings and zaps your self-esteem.
But you can turn your failures into stepping stones to success stories. Every failure teaches you something you can use for future success – even though your instinct may be to think of it as shame and humiliation – especially in business.
If you can transform a failure into a valuable piece of information you can use it as a tool for success. Be aware of how you talk to yourself. Self-talk after a failure can severely damage your self-esteem and make you feel like you’ll never be a success.
It’s normal to feel the hurt for awhile, but analyze that failure and think about how you can turn it around. Stay focused on your success. You’ve set goals and taken some action – now turn to them rather than focusing and drowning yourself in a failure you just experienced.
Nothing helps put failure behind you like taking action. Be consistent about moving forward. Failures are inevitable as we climb the ladder to success, but unless you get up off the floor and begin to move again, you’ll never learn from your mistakes and more importantly – will never realize success.
Experiencing burnout can come from experiencing failure. You may need to take a break and gather your thoughts, revamp your goals and plans for the future and simply get away from whatever you’ve devoted yourself to for the past months or years.
Taking time out may mean a trip to a place you’ve always wanted to visit, or reconnecting with loved ones you’ve neglected because you were too busy and involved in your plans for the future.
You don’t have to abandon those plans. Just give it a rest for awhile and think about other things. A change of scenery and some new thought processes might give you some new ideas about how you want to revamp your plans.
When you’re ready to take another leap in the success pool, you’ll enjoy the opportunity for a new beginning. Starting over doesn’t have to be disappointing or thought of as a failure.
Make it an adventure and see it as an opportunity rather than a setback. You’ll be armed with new thinking and new ways of doing things. You surely won’t make the same mistakes again because you’ve learned from them.
Think about the great story you’ll be able to tell others about how you turned failure into success with determination and learning from your mistakes. When you take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes, you’ll be making a tremendous leap to the success you desire and turn them to your advantage. Every failure offers you an opportunity for success.
Check out this additional audio segment about using positive reframing (this will help you turn failures into success stories)