This is a potentially life changing question to ask yourself. As someone who sets a lot of goals and works diligently to achieve them, I sometimes get into tunnel vision being hell bent on getting to my desired result.
And for the longest time, the only goals I set were tangible/measurable “outcome based” goals. Things like how much revenue I wanted to generate in a given month, how many pounds I wanted to shed, how many blog posts I wanted to write and so on.
Eventually I realized that I was so outcome oriented that there were other goals like “what kind of person do I want to BE” that I was not really thinking about.
Then it dawned on me that it doesn’t really matter how many external outcome based goals you achieve if, in doing so, you become the kind of person that no one wants to be around.
I often got grouchy or distant with my family or friends if I was even remotely distracted from being able to work on these tangible, results focused goals.
That’s when I decided it was time to actually plan for and set goals that took into account the kind of person I wanted to be. Specifically, I wanted to be sure that when I was around other people, whether it was family, friends, colleagues or customers, that I was carrying myself in a way that made a positive impact.
I wanted to be the kind of person who raised other people’s spirits, able to have fun and make people laugh. To care more about other people’s objectives (when I was in their presence) than my own.
It doesn’t mean I didn’t care about my own pursuits anymore, it just meant that I got out of my own head and made an attempt to have a positive impact on the people I was coming into contact with.
Right now I would consider this aspect of my life a work in progress but I am happy with my progress so far. Becoming conscious of this lesson was the key for me so I hope that by sharing this little insight with you, that it also helps you really take into account the question I asked in the title of this article…
How Is Your Presence Is Impacting Other People?
I encourage you to make sure you are happy with the answer to this 🙂